"Please use me to your satisfaction"

My dear friend, Mackenzie, posted on her blog pretty much everything I wanted to say. It's about "The Game" we play as single people trying to find love...I'm going to refer to the physical satisfaction to get us by for the time being.

I experienced, again, a guy wanting to use me for his physical needs. Excuse me?! No way. This has happened to me countless times. I don't know what it is. Seriously. I'm super guarded usually and rarely flirt with guys for fear that this might happen. I think I have a sign on my forehead that says: "Please use me to your satisfaction." This guys is the second guy this month to flatter me, seem interested, ask me "to do something", and then try to put the moves on me (by moves I mean try to make out and feel me up). He even had the guts to say, "It's ok. It's not like we're going to do anything you have to see your bishop for." Whoa!!! What a pig! I'm no that kind of girl.

Here's another situation that happens to me ALL THE TIME. I meet a guy. We have a conversation. He seems like a nice guy. We have a couple of other conversations throughout a period of time. He makes it seem that he is really talking to me to talk to me. Nope. Wrong. He's using me to get to my roommates or friends. The curse of having cute friends. I've gotten to the point where I tell the guy that if he wants to get to know her or ask her out, he can do it himself. And that's where our conversations end. He has no desire to talk to me anymore. Hello! I'm not the go between. If the only reason he's talking to me is for that, I'd rather not talk to him at all. This makes me feel like a complete idiot, undesirable as a woman, and not even worthy of an genuine conversation.

I don't understand how this always happens to me. I'm just the girl who guys want to NCMO or be the go between. Man up! Sorry, this might be more of an angry post. Don't get me wrong, I love my life. I've been blessed with a few guy friends that seem genuine. One even called me out on how distrustful and hesitant I was being around him. Can you blame me? I'm grateful to those that think of me as a real person and not a female toy to be messed with. Thank you.

If you'd like to refer to the Dating game rules, please click on Mackenzie's blog. She has it displayed to perfection.